Single Survival During The Corona- Part One
I’m so excited to introduce my new series to the blog… Single Survival During The Corona. Enjoy!
You’re in self isolation and you’re single during the Corona! Ain’t that some shit?! What are us members of Singledom to do?!!! We are BORED! Our usual methods of distraction have been stripped away (i.e. going to work, the gym, happy hours with friends, and date with randoms). So it is easy for our minds to go wild. And let’s keep it real, it can be downright lonely! Here are some survival tips for members of Singledom during the Corona Quarantine. We will get through this in one piece, but you still have to use your head.
Don’t allow cabin fever to drive you to make dumb desperate moves!
Put that phone down and DO NOT under any circumstances reach out to that ex! He was a fool then and he is even a bigger fool now during self-isolation. You know this! Why torture yourself?!
And on the flip side, be prepared for the The Return of the Randoms. Although this typically occurs during the holiday and cuffing season due to these unprecedented times, its happening at higher rates. Remember, people are bored and lonely. I promise exes and people who have ghosted you will be reaching out. As the late great Dr. Maya Angelou once said… when someone shows you who they are… believe them!
Embrace your singledom!
You have an opportunity to do what you want to do when you want to do it and how you want to do it in the comfort of your own home. Do you realize there are people who are in quarantine with a spouse they barely like! They are ready to kill each other! They are looking at you with pure envy because you get to DO YOU! And especially if you do not have kids! Embrace that too. I have friends of mine who are parents having to homeschool their kids that are sneaking out to their cars to escape their own house!
Journal, try out new recipes, try out new workout routines, organize closets.
Use this as a time of self-reflection- who you were, who you are, and who you want to be. Take a deep dive into past relationships and think about the lessons you have learned and start to manifest what you will do in the post Corona dating world.
Virtual happy hours are becoming the new norm. “Gather” a group of your girlfriends together and have an evening of Cocktails and Confessions virtually!
Time to start virtual dating!
What happens if you just started seeing someone and you two were hitting it off? You have 2 or 3 dates and you were vibing? This corona isn’t letting single folks live their best lives! You continue to date!
Treat the relationship like a long distance relationship. Talk on the phone, text. Set up virtual dates and FaceTime each other. Have meals together virtually.
Take it slow! No virtual one night hookups! Don’t be a Quarantine Ho! LOL! It’s easy to move fast, especially during these uncertain times. But really get to know this person mentally and emotionally. Save the physical for later. You will have something to look forward to post Lockdown!
Proceed with Caution on Dating Apps
You can’t dry up because you are on lockdown. It is an opportunity to meet a potential new boo. If you choose to use a dating app during this time take it slow. And understand there is a high percentage that the person is talking to a gang of other people even more so than pre-Corona. So just proceed with caution.
A lot of folks are shooting their shot. Someone who has been crushing on you might take a chance and reach out. This is different from an ex reaching out. This is something you should consider entertaining.
Be open to the possibility. They might start by liking your social media posts, then they may start commenting and they may finally get the nerve to slide into your DM’s! Entertain the convo. Think of it as a virtual flirt.
BE SAFE!!!! Practice Safe Self Isolation
Last and certainly not least… please make sure you’re safe. Do not go to anyone’s house or allow someone to come to your house. You must protect yourself. And that means stay in self isolation! Breaking social distancing is comparable to having sex with a total stranger without using a condom. Yes, it’s that serious! So don’t be a quarantine dumb ass!